• Those who buy chocolates and condoms in droves, with their nerd-o-meter maxed out and spitting cotton candy when they speak.
• Those who would rather bite their heart out than celebrate Valentine's Day, it doesn't matter if they spend it alone or with more people than Lolita's wedding.

For us, it's the perfect excuse. to talk about love… modern love.

3 Love Questions You and Your Father Answer Differently

The context of love has changed considerably compared to our times. grandparents:

• Relationships begin (and many end up 💦) through a small screen…
• Instagram has become an emotional showcase where everyone posts stories with filters and soundtracks from their sweetheart…
• Temptation Island is the trendy reality show and laboratory that we all (in schools, bars and terraces) use to analyze love

1. Are cheating the biggest possible offense in a relationship?
2. Do you have a specific and stable type of people you like?
3. Do you feel represented by Temptation Island?

1. Are cheating the biggest possible offense in a relationship?

Temptation Island has been sold to us as the ultimate test of love. You just want, really, to someone if you are able to lock yourself in a mansion full of people who are there to give it to you like a drawer that won't close... and resist the temptation of the woo woo.

With a couple of gin and tonics, obviously, the sins and hedonistic mantras begin:
“I did what I felt was right at all times”
“I’ve come here to test myself.”
“I needed to free myself”

And then it all ends in a "bonfire" or soap opera that your mother would love to see at 4 in the afternoon, full of troglodyte comments and inconsolable crying over the sin committed.

But: is the worst thing really knowing where some people stick their tongues and where others hide them? Let's see… We've all experienced infidelity, more or less closely.

And while it's not exactly a pleasant experience, with time and a lot of learning you overcome it. It's not pleasant. It's not the end of the world... either.

The new generations confirm itThere are many more serious things than being cheated on or having someone cheat on you: all those things that go against mutual respect, trust, establishing shared routines, understanding what another person wants and needs…

2.Do you have a specific type of person you like?

Tell me if you're sensitive or drier than a lighter flint.
If you're a simp or a goat.
If you were taught that men have to be 100% masculine.
Tell me what you're like... and I'll tell you how you'll be judged and what your 'book' complement is.

But the new generations are clear about it: F#CK ROLES (and, above all, the pre-established ones)!

A, B, C, D, E, F*ck…. Opinions about guys without balls, slutty chicks who let their hair down, paint their faces, get lost in the night and get sunburned on the beach, ….

Today, it's pointless to look for a closed, superficial, and inflexible list of conditions in your perfect match (or in yourself). This isn't Infojobs. New generations are guided in their search for partners by more subjective (and relevant) attributes, such as shared enjoyment... or that Someone motivates them to get out of bed (or stay in it) every morning, whoever it is and however they can..

3. Do you feel represented by Temptation Island?

It's undeniable that Temptation Island is a pop culture phenomenon and an endless source of memes. It's given us hours of debate and even new ways to... 'confess' our feelings.

And why is that? Is it just for gossip and morbid curiosity?

Yes, but above all, because we see ourselves (a little) reflected in their dramas. We see, in a strictly delayed way, uncomfortable situations (control, jealousy, lies, gaslighting, manipulation, victimhood…) and it makes us think about how we would react in their place.

Love in these modern times, therefore, is also about self-knowledge. About looking at yourself before blaming or commenting on anyone's behavior. About cleaning your own house before criticizing your neighbor's. About loving yourself before you can love someone else.

This is what 'modern' love is like in the time of Temptation Island

At this point in your life, you've surely had to swallow infidelity, see perfect profile pictures that bored you to tears, be in toxic relationships (or be the toxic one for someone) and learn something from it…

You may have a heart full of patched-up wounds or broken into pieces. And maybe all of that… isn't 'generational'; but rather a path of scars and growth that has led you, today, to have a concept evolved of that thing they call love:

• Perhaps now you can put into perspective what seemed like a nightmare 10 years ago…
• Perhaps now you've moved beyond looking for 'a specific type of person' and are open to anyone as long as they fulfill you in what's important.
• Perhaps now you're starting to prioritize your own happiness as a prerequisite for opening yourself up to someone.

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